Traits of a great girlfriend
No one wants a girlfriend they have to baby-sit. Once in a while, like if
she's had a rough day at work, it's great to be her shoulder to cry on, but
if she can't seem to function without you and is constantly after you, she
will eventually make you feel like you're suffocating, which is a surefire
way to get you running out the nearest exit.
On the other hand, if she has her very own personality and opinions, can
stand on her own two feet, both financially and emotionally, and is able to
enjoy time away from you -- while still missing you, of course -- then she
must be a great girlfriend...
I hate to be the one to tell you this, but the bimbo routine gets real old,
real fast. A woman who can meet you at an intellectual level is a total
turn-on. Instead of being the one in total control, you'll find yourself
trying to figure out what she's really thinking behind those glazed eyes of
hers -- or if she's actually thinking at all.
An intelligent woman will constantly surprise you and keep you on your
toes. She won't let you get bored of her. Besides, it's nice to have
something to talk about between all that chandelier-hanging sex.
I know, this one is kind of obvious, but important nonetheless. A great
girlfriend will not only want to look good for you, but also for herself.
She should always look her best and be well put together -- matching
lingerie is a definite plus.
You have to be proud to have her on your arm and enjoy the sight of her in
any light. And this doesn't mean that she has to be a Heidi Klum clone.
Remember that beauty is in the eye of the beholder, so if you think her
full bottom or uncontrollable curls are beautiful, you're allowed.
She respects you
This is a biggie. Your woman must respect you. This means that she listens
to you, even if she doesn't necessarily agree with what you're saying. And,
of course, she never tries to demean or belittle you in any way, shape, or
A great girlfriend won't ever cause scenes in public or in front of your
friends and family, and will always wait to discuss matters with you in
private. If she respects you, chances are that she will behave in a tactful
and diplomatic manner in most situations, which is definitely a good thing.
She lets you be a man
Do not -- I repeat -- do not get involved with a woman who tries to get you
to eat cottage cheese and fruit for breakfast and insists that you give up
poker night with the guys. You will end up resenting her more than you can
imagine. A good girlfriend lets you be a guy in all your glory, poker night
and all. If she's a great girlfriend, she'll even bring you and your
buddies a couple of beers and make you some of her famous sandwiches.
She has to understand that men and women are different and should allow you
to be yourself. Just like you wouldn't deprive her of going shopping with
her best girlfriend, she shouldn't expect you to give up the guys for her.
There is nothing worse than a nag! A great girlfriend knows this and
chooses her battles wisely. She knows when to speak-up and when to let it
slide. You don't want a girlfriend who will give you the heights of hell
for leaving a couple of dishes in the sink occasionally.
However, if you live together and you stay out all night without calling
her, and she lets you have it, then you're setting yourself up for
disaster. This is a situation that nobody would let slide -- not even a
She gets along with friends & family
A great girlfriend will not only help your mom in the kitchen, listen to
your dad's stories, and hang out with your friends, she will enjoy it.
She'll make a real effort to get to know and love the most important people
in your life. And she won't try to get you to ditch your best buds.
She'll actually empathize with your brother's getting dumped and suggest
that you guys take him out to cheer him up. Not only that, but your friends
won't roll their eyes and moan when you mention that she'll be joining you
guys when she gets off work (yes, women like this do exist).
She loves you
If you have found a woman who loves you for who you really are and not who
you pretend or try to be sometimes, you should definitely hang on to her. A
woman who doesn't try to change you is hard to find. Of course, everyone
has their slightly annoying habits that their mate has to contend with, but
if she really loves you, she will be able to cope with these.
Another way to know if she really loves you is by observing the way she
looks at you and treats you on an everyday basis. If the sight of you
doesn't seem to faze her either way, and she doesn't really seem to care
about what you have to say, she's either playing very hard to get, or sees
you as just some guy. But if a surprise visit or phone call from you makes
her light up, there's no denying that she loves you.
She makes you want to be a better man
Stop making that face... Any man who has a great girlfriend or wife will
tell you that she makes him want to be a better man. She doesn't have to
say or do anything; it just is that way. If you suddenly feel bad about how
you treated your sister or find yourself trying to get your finances in
order, you might want to think about your motivation for doing so. It could
do you already have her?
So, if this list seems to describe your current flame, you, my friend, are
styling. In fact, you are probably the envy of all of your friends, even if
they tease you for losing your status as "king player."
However, if the woman you are dating is more like the polar opposite, then
I don't think that getting serious with her would be in your best interest
-- but you knew that already, didn't you?